By Georgia Ragonetti-Zebell, MD
It’s time for your six week checkup, mommas, and you know what that means. No, not stirrups. SEX. Remember sex? Most women are cleared for intercourse after their six week postpartum visit. But are you ready? Here are five things you may not know about sex after baby.
Settle down, hubby. Not that kind of threesome. You, your partner, and BABY! Whether your baby is in the room with you or not, he or she will definitely be part of the experience. If you are breastfeeding, you’ll probably want to feed baby right before you do the deed. And pray that he stays asleep long enough for you to get it on. Don’t be surprised if your little one wants to make a guest appearance.
When I was pregnant, my body was plump- full breasts, round hips, swollen belly. Remember cankles? After delivery, that all went away. My body just deflated. I sagged in places I didn’t even know could sag. Seriously, who has saggy calves?? I did. And it’s hard to feel sexy when your calves are jiggling. But I also felt like my body was awesome. I mean, I grew a human, birthed it and then fed it solely from my body for 6 months. So while your body may have changed, it is amazing. Shake it. Love who you are NOW.
File this under “Things Your Mother Never Told You.” If you are breastfeeding, you may have learned by now that certain things trigger a letdown of your milk. For example, a baby crying. Or the warm water in the shower. Or an orgasm. That’s right, mommies. Just at the peak of pleasure, you have a peak of oxytocin, the same hormone that causes your milk to letdown. Cue the crying over spilled milk.
Did you know that your estrogen levels take a nosedive after delivery? You may experience menopausal symptoms like mood swings and hot flashes…and vaginal dryness. Not just during sex either. All. The. Time. It may feel like burning when you pee or your lady parts may just feel irritated. So lube up, girl! Don’t let a little low estrogen stop you from having a good time.
The Dry Spell
You know how your doctor recommended you wait 6 six weeks before having sex? You may find that you want to wait 6 months. Many women are surprised by the lack of interest in sex after baby. Sex deprivation, mood swings, and being constantly touched leads to decreased libido. And not just for you. For HIM too! Your partner may be feeling exhausted as well. So if you’re not ready yet, no worries. Your baby will sleep through the night eventually and you will get your mojo back.
Ok, mommas, go have some fun! (And don’t forget your birth control!)
Georgia Ragonetti-Zebell, MD is an OB/GYN practicing in Upstate South Carolina, and is mommy to four (yes, FOUR) boys. She is a graduate of the Women’s Health Pathway at Drexel University College of Medicine in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania and completed her residency in Obstetrics and Gynecology with the Greenville Health System in Greenville, South Carolina. She has a special interest in natural childbirth, breastfeeding, and alternative methods in labor and delivery. She enjoys yoga, crochet, and reading, but spends most of her free time cleaning up poop while trying not to step on Legos.